September 20, 2012
She was a bad girl. Was it because she talked to boys, or she was dressing too fashionably, or she asked too many questions? That didn’t matter. She was bad and needed to be fixed. The alternative was the azazel (wilderness) outside Williamsburg, the place they throw a girl who is a nebbish (a loser), an oiysvorf (an outcast), and a shiksa (a creepy gentile).
Her last hope was a “torah therapist” who could change her into a good girl. She didn’t know what to expect. But she assumed he would counsel her with words of torah. He would be a man, a rabbi, someone with a reputation for being zealous about torah and tznius (modesty). That of course meant he would be someone who was careful about all the halachos (rules) and minhagim (customs) governing relations between men and women. She was only twelve, just a bas mitzvah, yet still liable for violating any of the halachos applying to a grown woman.
She knew the rules. Din yichud, the rule of seclusion, prohibits an unrelated man and woman from being alone in a closed room. She grew up with those rules. She knew how to avoid violations of yichud. You had to leave a door open if it didn’t have a window. A full door would only be closed if you both knew that someone else could pass through the room unannounced. Then there was tznius, the covering of one’s body from neckline to elbow to below the knee. There was also negiah, the rule against contact with the other sex. On the streets she saw gentile men and women touching each other. But Hasidim did not do that. Hasidim even avoided casusally talking across the sex line. Hasidim were tznuah, shomerei negiah and medakdek (particularly careful) about yichud.
She was driven to an apartment building on Classon Avenue. She went into a small apartment with just a living room/dining room and a small bedroom off to the side. The torah therapy was going to happen in the bedroom. It had a bed and some chairs and a video player. Then the door was closed. It was just her and the “torah therapist” in a closed room.
I am trying to imagine the shock. She probably wanted to be somewhere else. She was probably scared. She was probably anxious, very anxious. She knew this was her last chance to avoid being thrown out of school. Because they said she was a bad girl, she couldn’t complain and she couldn’t argue. She had no one to back her and only the torah therapist in front of her.
Did she ask herself,
Is this my punishment for being a bad girl? Did they send me here to be in a closed room because bad girls don’t get the protection of din yichud? Can vaad hatznius (modesty committee) rabbis do anything they want with bad girls?
She was abandoned the moment the door closed. Even if nothing else happened during that first visit she now knew she had lost the protection of din yichud. She was on her own against someone who made his own rules, someone who could fix her reputation or destroy it.
In a different world all these girls would have known the cardinal rule: “If he makes me uncomfortable, get away, call for help, and tell my parents.” Perhaps a few complained and no one listened to them. Maybe they didn’t listen because the vaad was feared, or the vaad was paying them. Perhaps, others were so prejudiced against these girls that their complaints were ignored. Perhaps, most frightening of all, these girls just surrendered. Weberman had them where he wanted them and he proceeded to shred the shulchan aruch as he violated their innocence.
When Weberman got arrested his defenders started screaming pidyon shvuyim (redeem the captive). But he is not the captive, it was those girls who were captured. They were the ones who should have been rescued.
When Shechem raped Dinah, her brothers, Shimon and Levy, took their revenge and massacred a whole city. When Yaakov Avinu (Jacob) reproached them, they replied, “הַכְזוֹנָה, יַעֲשֶׂה אֶת-אֲחוֹתֵנוּ, will our sister be turned into a whore?” This is the answer you expect from tznius kanoim (modesty zealots).
That wasn’t the answer in Williamsburg because Weberman had friends in high places. Weberman was the molester but the girls were pimped to him by Satmar and Pupa’s girls schools and the Williamsburg vaad hatznius. They sold these Jewish girls into znus (sexual misconduct). I believe they did it for their share of his exorbitant “torah therapy” fee of $250 a session. Otherwise, I cannot fathom how they could send girls to an apartment without asking more questions. But bribes blind the eyes of judges and money quiets a questioning heart and a troubled conscience.
Some will argue that I am unfair. Perhaps they did not know the details. Perhaps Weberman misled them into believing everything was proper. If so, when they discovered how he betrayed them they should have shifted gears into vaad style violence against Weberman and his confederates. They should have posted pashkavilim naming him and declaring tzei tamei (go away you impure one!). They should have pressed Weberman to return all his ill gotten gains. Someone should have asked haratzachtah v’gam yirashtah (will you murder and also inherit)? Will you have the chutzpah to take money for sexually assaulting girls instead of providing torah therapy.
Instead I suspect that the Vaad, Bais Rochel, Niederman and others are sitting on their share of the extortion. In their determination to protect themselves they have become active participants in the absurd pidyon shvuyim campaign to pay for Weberman’s lawyers. After all, if he is forced to plead guilty he might start telling the truth about his confederates in crime.
Weberman is not a captive who needs redeeming; he is a cunning animal who needs to be contained in a cage. His defenders aren’t interested in redeeming a captive; they are desparate to protect their own reputations and their own rackets.
The captives were the girls led into his bedroom. Goyim didn’t capture those girls, Jews sent them there. Goyim didn’t violate those girls. They were abused and violated for months and years by a vaad hatznius kanoi. Yet nobody in the administration of Satmar is worrying about ransoming those girls. Nobody is crying out for their right to justice. No one is begging them for mechilah (forgiveness). No one is offering them reparations to pay for real therapists to heal their wounds. Instead they are threatening and slandering the witness and those close to her.
These unrepentant extortionists should tremble before yom hadin (the day of judgement, Yom Kippur). We should do our best to bring them to justice.
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